Eloping is the best way to get married!
Here’s a post with lots of elopement ceremony ideas. Eloping seriously is the best way to get married! You get to marry the love of your life & the day can be anything you want! There are no table plans to stress over, no family agendas to contend with & there is no pressure to perform. If you want an authentic, meaningful wedding that represents your relationship then eloping is the way to go!
What should you do during your elopement ceremony to make it special?
One of the most amazing things about eloping is your ceremony! You get to do you! A personalised ceremony fully focused on your love for one another. You aren’t restricted in timings, locations or format. Your dream ceremony really can happen.
How to have the best elopement ceremony – Six Elopement Ceremony Ideas
As an adventure elopement photographer I specialise in helping my couples have the most awesome elopement experiences. I’ve witnessed a lot of incredible ceremonies & these idea’s will help you craft your perfect ceremony.
1. Pick your ultimate location.
You get to take a look at planet earth and choose your favourite spot! This has got to be one of the main reasons that eloping is the best! Do you want to get married at the top of a mountain in the alps, in front of ancient Irish castle, in the Sahara desert or on a black sand beach in Iceland? You get to choose!
I’ve found that 99.99% of couples that elope have serious wanderlust, they love exploring & seeing new places. This is why eloping is such a natural decision for them. Surely the most important day of their lives should include their passion for travel.
So it’s up to you! Where will you elope to? If you want some inspiration, I think Northern Ireland is the best place to elope in the world, you can click HERE to see why.
2. Write your own vows.
There really is nothing quite like handwritten vows from the heart. Words are powerful! When the person that you love most in the world hears your raw declaration of undying love for them, it will be a moment they never forget. Speaking words of commitment to one another & making life long promises from your hearts, surely nothing can compare to that!
Having shot hundreds of traditional weddings before I became a full time elopement photographer, I witnessed a quite a few dry ceremonies. Sometimes it felt like the person running the ceremony was just inserting the couples names into lines they had read many times before. I’ve never experienced an elopement ceremony that wasn’t super emotional & full of precious moments. I recommend that all my couples hand write their own vows on the morning of their elopement day. Most couples have a rough draft and just copy them into their special vow book. This just looks amazing in your getting ready photos & really adds to the story of your day. Even if you think you’re not a great writer, telling your new husband or wife just how much they mean to you will be so special for both of you.
3. Time your ceremony right!
If you’re travelling across the world to elope in a beautiful place you definitely want to time your ceremony when the light is best. There’s a reason that people go to gorgeous view points at sunset, because it’s the optimum time to see that vista & the beauty of the surroundings will be amplified by the pretty light. It will be like you’re saying your vows in an actual dream!
4. Include your guests in your ceremony.
Around 30% of the elopements I’ve shot have a handful of guests that attended. Some couples just wouldn’t want to say “I do” without their parents/siblings/BFF in attendance, and that is totally cool. I encourage my couples to create their dream elopement day & if that involves a few of your must have people thats awesome. What has been so special to see has been when these special guests have been involved in the ceremony. I’ve seen fathers & brothers conduct ceremonies, sisters pray over the couple, best friends do a reading. However you want to include them will make your small wedding ceremony even more precious. Every single time a friend or family member has been a part of the ceremony it has been super emotional. When the people who love you the most are a part of you two declaring your love the atmosphere is just electric!
This is one of my favourite elements of an elopement ceremony here in Northern Ireland. The act of hand-fasting is an ancient Irish tradition, where the couples hands are tied together as a symbol of their union. It’s actually where the phrase “tying the knot” comes from. You don’t have to elope in Ireland to incorporate this in your elopement ceremony (though eloping in Ireland is a very good idea!). The celebrant ties the couples hands together usually with several ribbons or cords, each one symbolising something like passion or strength.
Once the cords are tied the celebrant asks the couples to look into each others eyes and they read this poem to them.
Blessing of the Hands by Rev. Daniel L. Harris
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.
These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future.
These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.
These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind.
These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow, and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.
These are the hands that will help you to hold your family as one.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.
And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.
It really is a powerful moment & all the couples that I’ve worked with have really loved including hand-fasting in their ceremony.
6. Include loved ones who can’t be there with you on your elopement day.
The majority of couples that I work with elope by themselves, it just works best for them that way. This doesn’t mean that they don’t care about their closest friends & family, quite the opposite in fact. It’s just for them to have a meaning wedding day it needs to be just the two of them. It’s so nice to see how couples choosing to elope alone include their loved ones in the ceremony. Sometimes the couple will read letters to one another that have been sent by their mother or father, this is always super emotional. Other couples have pre-recorded video messages from loved ones that they play just after the ceremony. A lot of couples like to Face-time family at some point after the vows are over. Some couples like to soak in the moment so wait an hour or two after the ceremony to make contact with loved ones. There really are no rules you have to follow, the most important thing is that you have an elopement day that is meaningful for the two of you.
Crafting your perfect elopement ceremony.
Those were my six elopement ceremony ideas. Could you imagine how special your elopement would be if you did them? There are so many other great things you could do but the most important thing is that you do whatever will make it perfect for you. Many people elope because they don’t want to have to stick to traditions, I love that. Find a way to declare your love for one another and commit your lives to each other in the way that makes you both smile from ear to ear. That’s the great thing about adventure elopements, you really can do whatever you want!
ELOPEMENT PLANNING RESOURCES
I love helping couples plan their perfect elopement experience. It’s such an exciting time in a couples life. I’ve made a few other resources for anyone planning to elope, there will be links at the bottom of this page. Also make sure to check out some of the real elopements I’ve posted on my blog, there’s nothing like a real elopement to inspire you! So stick around, I hope it’s helpful.
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